Does Lack of Communication Affect Your Satisfaction During Intimacy?
Satisfaction during Intimacy – Lack of communication results in one of the major problems that people have in relationships. An area that suffers greatly due to this, is sexual relations and intimacy.
Women rarely ask for what they want in the bedroom. They don’t want to hurt their partner’s feelings. If they ask for something different than they are getting, it might destroy the mood. They have always been told that men’s egos are fragile. Uncomfortable voicing what they want and in most cases so unaware of their bodies and their personal pleasure response, they don’t even know what to ask for.
In Tantric communication, we learn a specific way to request our desires, so that when you’re making love, you can ask for and receive exactly what you want. We are taught to share in a way that your partner feels supported and loved instead of criticized. Notice the difference between “I don’t really like that,” or “you don’t have the technique,” and, ”Please, I love it when you do this.” Verbalizing what you want from your partner makes it easier for them to satisfy you. Become accustomed to asking politely and with love.
I have often said that if you’re not laughing when you’re in bed, if you’re not having a good time, you’re having sex with the wrong person. Great sex, is healthful and life giving. It boosts the immune system and generates lots of feel good hormones. It is supposed to be fun and the only way it can be fun is if you can communicate, and if you aren’t taking yourself too seriously.
Satisfaction During Intimacy
Great lovers have finesse. Many people do what they do because that’s all they know. They don’t explore. Get to know your partner’s body and their response to different forms of pleasure. Look, feel and touch and see what kind of responses you can elicit. Take time to educate yourselves by playing and learning what turns your partner on. Understanding what your partner doesn’t like is beneficial, too. However, be sure that when you’re asking for what you want, you use please and thank you. Courtesy is just as valuable in the bedroom as it is in business.